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9: Personal Preventative Maintenance (AKA Self Care) and How To Get Over Your Excuses

I spoke about this topic for my interview on the Women Offshore Podcast, but I really wanted to touch on it for my listeners as well. You (hopefully) change the oil in your car when you’re supposed to, right? If not, I know that you charge your phone once a day. But when was the last time that you made time for yourself before you NEEDED it?

Everyone talks about self care in terms of face masks and bath bombs, but there is so much more to it. It doesn’t have to be much, and there are so many ways to do it. Unfortunately, you aren’t an engine, and you don’t come with a user’s manual. Your needs are going to change depending on what season of your life you are in. At certain times of my life, self care was just getting into the gym 3 days a week, and at other times, it was programming a rest day into my workout routine so that I didn’t burn out. Sometimes it is bath bombs and candles and fancy lotions.

But more than that, ensure you make time for yourself mentally. Mental stress is just as taxing as physical labor, but it gets overlooked as “not a big deal” so easily. 

If you don’t make self care a priority, it isn’t as easy as moisturizing and eating a vegetable every now and then.  But it doesn’t have to be hard either, but you need to see the value in it. You plug in your phone. You change the oil in your car. But do you see the value in taking care of yourself? Until we see that, we won’t be able to implement these practices on a consistent basis. When I did this because it was “what I was supposed to do” it left me even more stressed out, because I saw self care as something to add to my to-do-list instead of seeing it as a way to reduce my stress and overwhelm.

Where do you start if self care isn’t a priority for you right now?

Step 1: Find your why. Realize that you are amazing, and you need to take care of yourself. This brain and this body that you live in are the only ones you will get in this lifetime. Stop looking at yourself as a renewable resource.

Step 2: Identify your excuses. Write all of yours down. We are going to make a plan to get over them, because if you fail to plan, you plan to fail.

Step 3: Find ways to combat your excuses. You don’t have time? Skip your pre-bedtime facebook scroll and find 5 minutes in your day to put on moisturizer. Put the tube by your bed if you have to. Want to journal but always leave your notebook at home? Start typing up your thoughts in a google doc, so it’s accessible from your phone, laptop, iPad, etc. Can’t find a way to get around your perceived excuse? Send me an email, hello@jaiscurry.com, and let’s talk about it.

Step 4: Realize what makes you feel the most alive, and then do that. Do you like running and long hot baths? Do more of that, and maybe take the Pilates class that you hate off of your schedule. The more that you do the things you love, the easier it will be to do them.

What is your favorite form of self care? Tag me in your Instastories @smashyourdamngoals or write a review on iTunes for the show and let me know! You can also send me a DM on Instagram or Facebook.  I’d love to hear from you. For more information, check out my website at www.jaiscurry.com


5: You Can’t Fear the Future

You would never know it but I recorded the first episode of Smash Your Damn Goals in New Orleans. I love that city. It has always been a source of fascination for me, I’ve . spent a fair bit of time there visiting.

In 2013, 8 years after Katrina I made my way there for the first time onboard the TS Kennedy. The year started amazingly, I was 22 and had five months until I tested for my US Coast Guard 3rd engineers license and graduated college. I felt invincible. Sea is my favorite place to be. As we loaded up the ship to leave our first port, I got a call from my doctor. I had potentially cancerous cells I needed removed immediately.  I had the procedure done and 3 days later we cast off.

Once we had been out for a few days, I got really sick on board, some of the sickest I have ever been. My bones ached. I couldn’t get comfortable. The nurse took one look at the butterfly rash across my face and told me I needed bloodwork done as soon as we got to port, because that can be a sign of lupus. Once I heard that, my mind started spiraling. As far as I was convinced, my life as I knew it was over

I didn’t end up with an autoimmune disease, but I did end up changing how I was living. For awhile I was in a pretty dark place until I got results back. Our first night in NOLA I didn’t even want to leave the ship, but luckily I have the best friends in the world who bought me a Mardi Gras mask and made me come out and enjoy a place I had always wanted to go.

Once I found out that I was fine and had probably just had a weird skin reaction to something, I had a huge change in how I saw things. I stopped looking at my life as “just about to start.” I started saying yes to more, and finding ways to do my bucket list items vs getting caught up in reasons why I couldn’t.

Every time I am in NOLA, I grow. Something about this city pushes me way out of my comfort zone, and I am eternally thankful for that. I did my first live videos here. I stayed for a couple of days on my cross country move from Massachusetts to Texas. I FINALLY started recording the Smash Your Damn Goals Podcast here. I earned my OIM’s license just west of here.

It’s important to go to places where you can be inspired, and where you feel called to take on the world. Every time I travel here, I try to get outside my routine, and do something that I struggle with, even if it’s just something weird like trying alligator. Every time I am here, I look for discomfort. I push for my personal growth.

With all that said, I have some questions for you that I want you to think about.

Where do you find inspiration?
What about that place inspires you?
How can you cultivate that inside of yourself?
Even if you can’t find a way to be in a place that pushes you beyond your wildest imagination, what about that place can you think about or meditate on to help you grow?
What can you say hell yes to? 

What have you been putting off? Don’t do it just because you think you should, or for the sake of ticking a box. For example,  if there is something people have told you that you should do, but you have no interest in it, skip that. Things like that are either a hell yes or they are a no. Check in with yourself and find something that is a hell yes, and then go find a way to do it, and soon. You don’t need a near death experience to start living.

Where is your place for inspiration and growth? Let me know when you review on this episode or send me a DM on Instagram or Facebook @jaiscurry. You can also or screenshot this episode in your Instastories, tag me @jaiscurry and let me know! I’d love to hear from you. For more information, check out my website at www.jaiscurry.com